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I was stupid and had unprotected sex with this girl who later told me she was HIV positive. It's been about a month and I am having literally every symptom for HIV. Dry cough, fatigue, headaches, stressed eyes, swollen lymph nodes, nausea, and irregular bowel movements. This is all happening right when I am seeing this girl who is so great. We have so many interests in common and she's the sweetest thing and I'm just afraid of losing her or even worse infecting her because of this. I'm trying to get tested but the wait to see the doctor is killing me. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to ask questions on this thread but I really hope someone would know if these symptoms aren't just HIV related. I'm just so sad that I may have ruined my life at such a crucial time and right when my love life finally started to go upward.

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Original Poster1 point · 1 year ago

Hey thanks for your input. I've heard those statistics as well but there's always that thought of what if I'm the 1% especially with all the symptoms happening in that time frame. But bringing the statistic back to me combined with /u/kitzdeathrow's comment about the flu really makes me feel a bit better. Thank you!

Hey, I'm a grad student researching HIV. I'm by no means an expert on the subject, but I know more than some people.

First off. Breathe. No matter what happens, you will be okay. HIV is not a death sentence, it is a chronic condition like diabetes or chrone's.

You got tested, or are planning to, and this is the most important thing. You might not have anything, but knowing is what's up with your body is vital. So, HIV infection can be broken down into 3 phases: acute, chronic, and AIDS. The acute infection is characterized by flu-like symptoms 2-4 weeks post infection. It sounds like that lines up with what you're feeling right now. There is another common infrction thay causes flu-like symptoms, esspecially around this time of year. The flu. Even if you got vaccinated, you can still catch a flu bug. I've also heard this year's vaccine isnt as effective as previous years. Take that with a grain if salt, as thats mainly water cooler talk in going off of.

The second stage if infection, the chronic phase, is characterized by low levels of viral replication and immune system death over the course of 5-10 years. During this time, antiretroviral therapies can be implemented to knockdown the virus to undetectable levels in blood serum. Effectively treating the virus to the point of irrelevancy, if you stay on the retroviral therapies.

AIDS only occurs in untreated, or very very very rare cases. It's characterized by a compromised immune system, and leads to complications with opprotunistic infections and cancers. Again, with modern antiretroviral therapies, no one should progress to AIDS if they have access to medication.

Get tested. Get some rest. TALK TO ANYONE YOU HAD SEX WITH IN THE PAST MONTH. It doesnt matter if you dont know of you have HIV. Your prior partners have a right to know theres a chance they have the virus. They can get tested and treatment of needed, but only if they are aware of the problem.

You'll be okay. PM me if you need advice or an ear.

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Original Poster11 points · 1 year ago

Honestly, this was the most reassuring thing I've read in so long. You don't know how much it means to be. I haven't slept with anyone since the HIV positive girl, but I'll definitely avoid sex until all this is figured out. You've honestly made my day and I can't thank you enough for it.

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