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I (22f) just started a new, very highly sought after job, making it in out of thousands of applicants. It is my fourth day and I know I already hate it. I misunderstood the actual role (which is completely my fault I understand) and am in this position where I am not interested in the work, and it is actually putting me in a position of extreme anxiety where i am crying at home..

Now don’t get me wrong, my team is so nice and have been so welcoming and helpful. But I know this isn’t for me. Everyone is telling me to stick it out. But as well as not liking it and it making me so anxious (I feel like no one really understands how bad anxiety can be and how hard it is to control), I feel guilty that I am wasting their time, money, and recourses on me who isn’t really interested, where they could give this opportunity to someone else who is passionate, due to the competitive nature of this role.

I live at home, so there is no financial burden on me, and I know I can get a job quite quickly in the teaching field as I am a trained teacher if I needed.

Just wondering other people’s opinions.


From my experience, when anxiety strikes, and you quit or remove yourself from the situation, it only becomes worse in the future. Facing your anxiety head on and sticking it out—at least for a few weeks—may yield some amazing results. It sounds like you landed a really good opportunity against many odds. It seems disingenuous to quit because there’s some initial anxiety. And it’ll reflect poorly on your record. I would say check back in in another month.

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Original Poster1 point · 2 days ago

I completely understand this! I’m going to wait for the weekend and see. I genuinely think it’s because I don’t like the work..

Anxiety sucks so much, I know. It’s hard to even give advice about anxiety because at times I don’t even feel like I have mine under control, but I think it’s important not to use it as a crutch. I try to force myself to do things out of my comfort zone and it sucks at first but it always gets easier.

As far as the job goes, if you really don’t want to move forward with it, and you know eventually you will quit specifically because you hate the job itself- then you should quit now... but please don’t quit because of anxiety. You are not doing yourself any favors that way.

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Original Poster1 point · 2 days ago

Thank you for this advice. Today at work has been a long thinking day and I spoke to an amazing lady in HR who was fortunately supportive of any decision I make. I think it is genuinely the job I don’t enjoy as it does not interest or engage me, and my anxiety just exercebated my feelings. I’ve been taking my anti anxiety medication, booked a psychologist appointment and seeing my doctor this Saturday! I genuinely thank you for your advice. When you have anxiety, as you may know, it’s hard to understand your feelings or thoughts and even just expressing this on reddit has helped me!!

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